If you are like me, you have struggled with pornography from a very young age. It has been something that you have tried time and time again to stop, but can’t seem to break the cycle for more than a few weeks or months at a time.
Maybe you have tried accountability partners, sexaholics anonymous, prayer, counseling, deleting apps off your phone, and internet content blockers, yet you still manage to find a way to view and use pornography.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! As someone who used pornography for a variety of reasons for over 2 decades, I get it. The daily battle within ourselves when we act outside of the values that we have in our hearts and what we are being taught at church is exhausting, painful, and frustrating. It causes us to live in a constant state of being disconnected from the the things that are most important to us.
The majority of my life, I had accepted that porn was going to be apart of my life till the day I die. I had no hope and felt I had little worth. I am here to tell you from personal experience, that freedom is possible.
The issue with most addiction recovery programs and resources, in my opinion, is they do focus too much on the problem. Its one thing to acknowledge that you have an issue, and its important to not live in denial of our wrong doings and how they affect ourselves and others. But when you focus so much on the problem, the problem is still in control of you. That is why we struggle to get rid of porn.
We all know that life would get better if we removed porn, but what does that life look like? Have you ever written down what you want your life to look like?
What I suggest is to shift our focus from running away from the problem of pornography to focus entirely on what you want your life to look like. It worked for me, and it can work for you.
I’m not talking about just not watching porn. I’m talking about ushering in a new way of living. An intentional way of living that will bring the most freedom and peace that you have experienced. A life without the daily battle of fighting against porn, but a life that is connected with God and those around you.
You don’t have to do this journey alone. In fact, God created us to live life in community. The truth is if you continue to do and try the same things, you will always get the same outcome. Its time to try something new.
If you are serious about getting porn out of your life here are a few places to start:
1. You can buy my book. It offers you the steps and exercises I took in order to break free from my porn struggle.
2. You can join our community. This community is not for everyone. This is a place where you can come and be themselves (maybe for the first time ever), be open, be vulnerable and get help and support from me and each other as you go through your journey.